“Mooommyy! Mooom! Mommy, can my friend spend the night?” our little 5 year-old asked as he ran up the stairs with his friend in tow. “I’m sorry sweetie, but not tonight.” “But whyyyyy?!” “No. Not tonight.” No reason? Just a rejection? Doesn’t that seem a bit harsh? Wouldn’t it be better to explain why his friend couldn’t spend the night or at least throw out another possibility? No, this was a scene that had [...]
"¿Puedo andar en bicicleta al parque con Ryan?" "¡No, hoy no dulce!" Comenzando durante los años de niño pequeño y continuando durante todos los años de la adolescencia, hay una tendencia de crianza que se filtra en la psique de un niño e influye profundamente en sus motivaciones, esfuerzos e incluso su propia personalidad. Como padres, trajimos nuestra propia educación en el matrimonio y necesitábamos ponernos en la misma página al proporcionar respuestas a la [...]
The 3rd and 4th Generation This is the last in a 4 part series about creating new patterns in your family that will bless the 3rd & 4th generation. 1) Stake in the Ground 2) Guard your Tongue and Tone 3) Can Do or Must Do 4) What’s Missing “The Lord…who keeps lovingkindness for thousands, who forgives iniquity, transgression and sin; yet He will by no means leave the guilty unpunished, visiting the iniquity of [...]
The 3rd and 4th Generation This is the third in a 4 part series about creating new patterns in your family that will bless the 3rd & 4th generation. 1) Stake in the Ground 2) Guard your Tongue and Tone 3) Can Do or Must Do 4) What’s Missing “The Lord…who keeps lovingkindness for thousands, who forgives iniquity, transgression and sin; yet He will by no means leave the guilty unpunished, visiting the iniquity of [...]
The 3rd and 4th Generation This is the second in a 4 part series about creating new patterns in your family that will bless the 3rd & 4th generation. 1) Stake in the Ground 2) Guard your Tongue and Tone 3) Can Do or Must Do 4) What’s Missing “The Lord…who keeps loving kindness for thousands, who forgives iniquity, transgression and sin; yet He will by no means leave the guilty unpunished, visiting the iniquity [...]
"Ok, cogollo. Sócete a la silla y jugaremos un juego que te mostrará algo que es muy, muy importante para mamá y papá. Se llama Confianza. Suba hasta allí y se lo mostraré". Cada uno de nuestros 3 niños pasó por este ejercicio alrededor de los 4 o 5 años de edad. El taburete se encuentra a 3 pies del suelo, por lo que la altura es muy intimidante. "Ok, pon tus manos a los [...]
The 3rd and 4th Generation This is the first in a 4 part series about creating new patterns in your family that will bless the 3rd & 4th generation. “The Lord…who keeps lovingkindness for thousands, who forgives iniquity, transgression and sin; yet He will by no means leave the guilty unpunished, visiting the iniquity of fathers on the children and on the grandchildren to the third and fourth generations.” Exodus 34:7 You stand at the [...]
As Dave was driving with his young family through a mostly empty parking lot after attending parenting class, he slammed on the brakes, “OOOHHH!!!”. Lis and the kids were alarmed. “WHAT?!! What’s wrong?!” “OH! MY! GOSH!!!” Dave exclaimed. “What daddy, what is it?!” the kids in the back seat were tense. “I LOVE YOUR MOM AND YOU GUYS SOOOO MUCH!!!” The tension in the air popped. Dad was just goofin’ again. “Daaaadyyyy!” Lis just shook [...]
One trait that separates humans from animals is our curiosity, the fascination we have with discovering new things. The dopamine hit and mental energy that comes from satisfying curiosity can develop a golden outcome where mental growth leads to understanding, more confidence, and more fascination about life that is increasingly more satisfying. A lifetime of mental exploration in an infinite universe of discovery. Isn’t this what we want for our kids? What can you do [...]
“Can I ride my bike to the park with Ryan?” “No, not today sweetie!” Starting during the toddler years and continuing all through the adolescent years, there is a parenting tendency that seeps into a child’s psyche and deeply influences their motivations, efforts, and even their very personality. As parents we brought our own upbringing into the marriage and needed to get on the same page when providing answers to our children’s request. Lis grew [...]