Marriage

20 09, 2016

Marriage First

By Shelly and Rich Howard|2017-03-06T11:16:04-07:00September 20th, 2016|Family Culture, Letters, Marriage, Relationship|

We believe that the marriage relationship should be the first priority within the family structure... even before our kids! In today’s society, there is constant pressure to put our children first above EVERYTHING else in the family environment. This misguided prioritization can ultimately lead to child-centered parenting and even divorce. Don’t get us wrong. Our children are a top priority. And just because we prioritize our marriage before our children, that doesn’t mean they suffer [...]

6 09, 2016

Are you playing to win or not lose?

By Shelly and Rich Howard|2017-03-06T11:16:04-07:00September 6th, 2016|Finances, Health, Letters, Marriage, Parenting, Personal|

The Howards are HUGE football fans! In fact, we’ve had Denver Bronco season tickets in our family since 1968. With the 2016 pro football season kicking off this Thursday (a Super Bowl 50 rematch!), we are reminded of a coaching philosophy that actually transcends many areas of our lives. It’s the idea of playing to win versus playing to not lose. In football, there is a particular strategy that some coaches use to protect the [...]

23 08, 2016

I’m only going to count to three one more time!

By Shelly and Rich Howard|2016-08-23T05:43:42-06:00August 23rd, 2016|Letters, Marriage, Parenting, Relationship|

How many times have you said that during the course of your parenting? What about these parenting classics: Don’t make me stop this car! How many times do I have to tell you?!?! This is the last time I’m going to tell you! If you be good for mommy and daddy, we will give you… I mean it this time! The reality is, we’ve all said these phrases many more times than we would like [...]

7 08, 2016

Rewind The Tape

By Lis and Dave Marr|2017-03-06T11:16:04-07:00August 7th, 2016|Letters, Marriage, Relationship|

At a time when our marriage was at a fork in the road, we discovered 2 important things that helped our relationship immensely. The first thing was Gary Chapman’s 5 Love Languages (here’s a link to take the Love Languages Test). This well-known concept that people grow up giving and receiving love through these 5 modes of love was absolutely revolutionary for our marriage taking it from a 6-7 rating on the happiness scale to [...]

29 06, 2016

Romeo and Juliet Harmonize Sex

By Lis and Dave Marr|2017-03-06T11:16:04-07:00June 29th, 2016|Letters, Marriage, Relationship|

Spread thy close curtain, love-performing night, That runaways' eyes may wink and Romeo Leap to these arms, untalk'd of and unseen. Lovers can see to do their amorous rites By their own beauties; or, if love be blind, It best agrees with night. Come, civil night, (Juliet awaits Romeo to come in the night and describes in Elizabethan language metaphors for sex. Act 3, Scene 2: Romeo and Juliet) Sexual intimacy evolves. Passion highlights the [...]

26 06, 2016

Romeo and Juliet’s Tipping Point

By Lis and Dave Marr|2017-03-06T11:16:04-07:00June 26th, 2016|Letters, Marriage, Personal, Relationship|

Let’s pretend that this true story is typical of marriages. We’ll call the wife Lis and the husband Dave just for convenience sake. This marital drama developed over many years long before children arrived. It started out happy, took a turn for the worse where arguments were not uncommon, then righted itself into a ‘happily ever after’ scenario. The story starts as they typically do identifying threads of meaning long before the players come on [...]

24 06, 2016

Romeo and Juliet Grow Up

By Lis and Dave Marr|2017-03-06T11:16:04-07:00June 24th, 2016|Letters, Marriage, Personal, Relationship|

ROMEO If I profane with my unworthiest hand This holy shrine, the gentle sin is this: My lips, two blushing pilgrims, ready stand To smooth that rough touch with a tender kiss. JULIET Good pilgrim, you do wrong your hand too much, Which mannerly devotion shows in this; For saints have hands that pilgrims' hands do touch, And palm to palm is holy palmers' kiss. ROMEO Have not saints lips, and holy palmers too? [...]

8 06, 2016

Commitment, Exchanging Value, and Sex

By Lis and Dave Marr|2017-03-06T11:16:05-07:00June 8th, 2016|Letters, Marriage, Personal, Relationship|

It’s wedding season. A recent nuptial at a beautiful location south of Denver captured the fantasy of many a blushing bride. The location was pastoral perfection, the weather ideal, the ceremony handled with the right balance of solemnity, humor, and emotion. It really was enjoyable to watch the couple exchange vows, the participants and parents hold back tears, and the attendees dance the night away. A dream wedding. Today’s letter is the first part of [...]

18 04, 2016

Reaching Your Potential

By Shelly and Rich Howard|2017-03-06T11:16:05-07:00April 18th, 2016|Family Culture, Letters, Marriage, Parenting, Personal|

For those of you who know us, we are nuts (mostly Rich) about goal setting, planning objectives, formulating mission statements, etc.. for ourselves individually and collectively for our family. And while we enjoy these kind of developmental/growth tools (mostly Rich), they are basically tactical and action oriented activities that serve the underlying message of reaching one’s potential. We describe and define reaching your potential as being “the best you” that you are capable of being [...]

8 02, 2016

Temperaments

By Shelly and Rich Howard|2017-03-06T11:16:05-07:00February 8th, 2016|Letters, Marriage, Parenting, Personal, Relationship|

Have you ever considered the temperaments or taken a temperament test? Shelly and Trevor are Phlegmatic while Rich and Alex are Choleric. These are the temperaments in our family. Like love languages, temperaments are a tool that help us to describe our emotional/personality characteristics. We have found that knowing our own temperament and our boys’ temperaments has been very helpful in our parenting and understanding some of the dynamics in our relationships. We have also [...]